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Each column has its own excesses. Let's review.
Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcie Sugar: The most mainstream, tame of the advice columns. Responses are usually brief and along the lines of "Get marital counseling," "Call this hotline," or "Volunteer in your community."
Dear Abby by Jeanne Phillips: Slightly longer, punchier responses than Mailbox, but still usually: "Get counseling; if he won't go, go alone" and "Ask, 'Why do you want to know?'"
Ask Amy by Amy Dickinson: I like Amy Dickinson--she's sometimes funny on Wait! Wait! Don't Tell Me or the occasional fluffy radio segment--but hardly any of her personality is on display in this third, very mainstream column. She does occasionally take on slightly racier topics than the above two, such as a recent two-part column where readers weighed in on whether or not they like thongs. (She also tends to solicit too much reader feedback, I think.)
Handy Hint: If you ever want an advice columnist to tell you to break up with someone, write to them about your boyfriend. If you want them to tell you you can work it out if you try, write to them about your husband.
Carolyn Hax Carolyn's column used to be "advice for the under-30 set," but now I guess it's for everyone, since there have been columns where people ask about their 20-year marriages, adult children, etc. Still, the readership is still somewhat younger than the above columns, I think. Carolyn has weekly live chats which she writes columns from on Fridays, which are nice because you can have some back-and-forth, with readers responding to Carolyn's advice and Carolyn responding to the response.
My favorite thing about Carolyn Hax is that she seems to have a keener eye than most for seeing through the letter-writer's preconceptions. She doesn't automatically agree with her(/his) POV. She calls them on their BS. My least favorite thing about Carolyn Hax is that she never seems to give actual advice. She reviews the writer's preconceptions; gives a lot of either-or options; turns the problem inside out and upside down; and then just sort of stops shy of actually suggesting any course of action. Perhaps this is a conscious strategy to get people to solve their own problems, but it always leaves me feeling like, "...And?"
Since You Asked by Cary Tennis: This one is almost impossible to read. Each column is only one letter, and he responds at length, which is a nice change from some of the two-line responses of Abby and Amy and Annie which leave you feeling like you wasted your time getting invested in the problem. But Cary's lengthy responses just make my eyes glaze over. They're not only too long, but they're usually gibberish (or at least that's how it seems to me, but I have a heart of stone). He always empathizes with the writer, maybe too much. He's very heart-on-his-sleeve and sometimes openly heartbroken at whatever the writer is going through. Frequently there is no actual advice.
But sometimes there is! One out of every three or four columns, there will be two paragraphs of surprisingly concrete advice followed by two paragraphs of meandering incomprehensible philosophizing. Most of the time, though, there is just four paragraphs of meandering incomprehensible philosophizing. Cary Tennis's column, I think, is the clearest example of the hit-and-miss nature of advice columns.
Also, he does not use contractions.
Do you have a daily advice column of which you are fond--or not so fond? Comment! I will add it to my list.
I will do a follow-up post of weekly columns.